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MissCautious - I'll Give it Away

When I Am Good and Ready

I am a 22-year-old virgin. I know what you're thinking and no, I’m not ugly. Nor am I overly religious. I’m also lucky enough to not have had any traumatic sexual experiences in my past - that's not why I choose to be a virgin. I choose it all the way!

I always get the same question. Why are you still a virgin?

I spent a lot of time in secondary school as the single girl my friends came crying to when their boyfriends gave them grief. So I learnt early on how much people could hurt each other. I saw three friends fall pregnant and drop out of school. I didn’t want that. I have big plans for my life. I want to get a job and earn money.

I started dating after school. Each time a relationship ended, it hurt. I had to pick up the pieces and fit them back into place. I do not want to have sex with just anyone and then have to move on.

But I realised that not having sex with the guys I liked has actually made my life easier. If I had ever slept with any of my exes, pulling myself back together after a breakup would have been that much more difficult. There would be so much more than just my heart at stake.

Sex is a big deal. You can't take away the fact that you gave your body to someone. You trusted them with your health and your body. To be honest, I haven’t yet met anyone I trust THAT much.

And if it ends, you have to do it all over again with someone new. I think I am just going to wait until I find someone who is worth all that.

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What advice can you give to someone who is trying to follow in your footsteps ?

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Yes. Waiting for the right reasons is one of the best decisions one can ever make in life.

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